Hey! I haven't been on here for a while. I find it takes time to get into a new habit and well, Bloggin is new to me and isn't quite a habit yet. But I do wish to share my thoughts and new things in my life.
So, Since August/September, I got married, and it was the most perfect day I've even seen. We had so much fun, and only had a few close friends and family attending, because we wanted to keep it simple (Ok ok, that was my idea.... to keep it simple, because I had seen brides get so stressed, and stressing the family and their very own relationship just before getting married, and I didn't want that to happen to us. I also didn't believe in going into debt, just to get married and start our new life together.... in further debt. Didnt' make sense to me). So back to what I was saying, it was a perfect day, my husband was the proudest man I've even seen and he's been glowing since. I couldn't ask for a better friend, confidant, husband and future father.
We've since joined a Leadership Development group of poeple who wish to improve their lives in any area of their lives. Such as, Friends, following, fun, finances, Family and there's a few more. The great thing about it is that we've already read some of these books and they've already made a big change in our life.
When Mike and I first met in 2009, we were instantly attracted to eachother's personalities.... which was a first for me. I'm sure I'm not the first person to have gone through some challenging relationships trying to figure myself out along the way. But Mike, he was different. We had both been hurt in the past and so we were both ok with taking it one day at a time.... and we loved having fun! For what ever reason, we both love to dress up for any kind of event.
Fastforward to Nov 2010. Mike had officially moved in with me.... and the butterfly feelings started to dwindle... and real life started to settle in. I knew that Mike loved me very much, and I love him very much too... but somehow.... we couldnt' see eye to eye anymore. Argued over the simplest of things, faught on a regular basis. Now Mike comes from a family who is very comfortable in expressing themselves verbally, and screaming at eachother to resolve problems is normal. Because that's how he grew up. Our normal is defferent for everybody, because no 2 people have the exact same experience growing up. My normal was, to resolve differences in talking calmly and taking time to listen to eachother and finding solutions together. Meanwhile, eachother's way of dealing with the situations iritated the other person.... because one wanted to fight about it to sort it out, and the other wanted to discuss calmly.
Finally, Mike and I sat down, and we decided that obviously, we couldn't go on like this because, neither one of us was happy. We were both hurting, and had no idea how to make it better. That's when we had to make the next decision. Do we split up? Or do we change our ways, and make this better?
We both opted to try and change our ways. I had access to a group of people a few years back, who had Self development books, and I knew they'd helped me in the past.... so I thought.... let's give it a shot. The book we read and made a part of our everyday life was; "The 5 Love Languages".
All couples, young, old, newly weds, new relationships, friends, family, coleagues, supervisors and employees should read. Because in all those walks of life, if you can make a person feel loved, or appreciated, or respected, or special.... it will go a long way. You will connect with people in a different, more fulfilling way.
This book changed our lives. I believe this book is what helped us work together, grow together as people and as a couple. I don't want to think where I'd be today, if we hadn't decided to read this book. It's a simple concept. Simple easy quick read. Took a few hours out of our day, and changed the rest of our life.
The current book I'm reading is "Peronsality Plus" (it goes about explaining the 4 different types of personalities, and how they think and process information, making it easier to understand and relate to anyone in your daily life. The next couple of books I have lined up are "Grown up Girlfriend" and "Positive Impact". I'll come back once I've completed reading these books and let you know what I thought.
Thank you for reading. Feel free to reach out if you'd like to have more information about the Leadership Development Group we're part of. It's definately having a positive impact in our life!
Sincerely
Danielle
